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The Hurt Remains The Same
We are constantly being given challenges and situations in life that we must react to, deal with, and somehow overcome in order to live decent lives. Sometimes things come at us that truly test us as human beings. Still, we get through it and move on, because we have to. It is who we are. It is what we do.
There is one thing, however, that as long as I live, I will never understand, get used to, or ever be able to fully deal with. When I’m hurt by someone I care about. I just can’t seem to be able to justify why one person would, intentionally or otherwise, hurt anyone especially if that person is someone close to you. Someone you shared your Love and trust with.
I understand we all have things going on in our lives, but knowingly doing anything hurtful to a Friend is inexcusable. When you commit yourself to a person as a Friend or even more than a Friend, it should be as important to them as it is to you, to never let anything be said or done to cause hurtful feelings. Hearts are fragile enough in this world, just from the people out there who live to hurt others, without getting it from anyone you cared enough to call a Friend. I take Friendship very seriously and just don’t understand why others don’t. Friendship is like a relationship you have with another person in an almost “intimate” way. You become Friends, you share, you almost live their lives as they live yours. It’s a very close bond and a sacred trust. I know on-line we have “Friends Lists,” but those are merely acquaintances unless you keep in touch regularly enough. Still, you often follow their lives as well, but not as closely as you would a Friend that you hold closely in your Heart.
Anyway, True Friends should not be disposable. You don’t get rid of older ones when newer ones come into your life. All compliment one another and are a reflection of who you are. They are all meant to be there., but I guess not everyone shares that belief. When I say “older,” I don’t necessarily mean age. I have some great younger Friends, who are still Friends, by the way, and we still have the same Love and respect for each other that we had when we first met. One of the best things , though, is that a few of them aren’t even Gay, know that I am, but we still continue as Friends. To me, that is what Friendship is truly about – Having Enough Love and Respect For Each Other as People and As Friends. That nothing else matters!
Still, there are some people, doesn’t matter what age, who worry about what other people think. They have been my friends for a while, but now because they’re afraid of what other people they come in contact with might think of them, they’ve been quietly distancing themselves away from me. That’s okay, It’s fine with me. I see it no matter how discreetly they try to appear to be, I’ve been through it before. I guess I’m at the age where games have no place in my life. I know you should always do what’s best for you, but at least have the guts to let the person know why you can’t be Friends anymore. You owe that to them and yourself. One day, you may find yourself on the receiving end of that same treatment, and I hope you deal with it as well as others you’ve done it to have.
I always look at it as, once you turn your back on me, the chances of ever returning into my life are extremely remote. I know that sound harsh and we are supposed to forgive, but forgiving is one thing and forgetting is another, so I never forget the people who have hurt me. I don’t ever allow them to do it again. Life is too short to put any real effort into people who do not treat you well or only want you around when it’s convenient for them. I’m done with those people and situations. I have enough Great People in My Life, and I’m done with all that drama.
So, as you’ve probably figured out, I’m going through some issues with a couple of “so-called,” friends lately. I can deal with it, I always have, but what I’ve noticed, it just never gets any easier. The Hurt Remains The Same!
There is one thing, however, that as long as I live, I will never understand, get used to, or ever be able to fully deal with. When I’m hurt by someone I care about. I just can’t seem to be able to justify why one person would, intentionally or otherwise, hurt anyone especially if that person is someone close to you. Someone you shared your Love and trust with.
I understand we all have things going on in our lives, but knowingly doing anything hurtful to a Friend is inexcusable. When you commit yourself to a person as a Friend or even more than a Friend, it should be as important to them as it is to you, to never let anything be said or done to cause hurtful feelings. Hearts are fragile enough in this world, just from the people out there who live to hurt others, without getting it from anyone you cared enough to call a Friend. I take Friendship very seriously and just don’t understand why others don’t. Friendship is like a relationship you have with another person in an almost “intimate” way. You become Friends, you share, you almost live their lives as they live yours. It’s a very close bond and a sacred trust. I know on-line we have “Friends Lists,” but those are merely acquaintances unless you keep in touch regularly enough. Still, you often follow their lives as well, but not as closely as you would a Friend that you hold closely in your Heart.
Anyway, True Friends should not be disposable. You don’t get rid of older ones when newer ones come into your life. All compliment one another and are a reflection of who you are. They are all meant to be there., but I guess not everyone shares that belief. When I say “older,” I don’t necessarily mean age. I have some great younger Friends, who are still Friends, by the way, and we still have the same Love and respect for each other that we had when we first met. One of the best things , though, is that a few of them aren’t even Gay, know that I am, but we still continue as Friends. To me, that is what Friendship is truly about – Having Enough Love and Respect For Each Other as People and As Friends. That nothing else matters!
Still, there are some people, doesn’t matter what age, who worry about what other people think. They have been my friends for a while, but now because they’re afraid of what other people they come in contact with might think of them, they’ve been quietly distancing themselves away from me. That’s okay, It’s fine with me. I see it no matter how discreetly they try to appear to be, I’ve been through it before. I guess I’m at the age where games have no place in my life. I know you should always do what’s best for you, but at least have the guts to let the person know why you can’t be Friends anymore. You owe that to them and yourself. One day, you may find yourself on the receiving end of that same treatment, and I hope you deal with it as well as others you’ve done it to have.
I always look at it as, once you turn your back on me, the chances of ever returning into my life are extremely remote. I know that sound harsh and we are supposed to forgive, but forgiving is one thing and forgetting is another, so I never forget the people who have hurt me. I don’t ever allow them to do it again. Life is too short to put any real effort into people who do not treat you well or only want you around when it’s convenient for them. I’m done with those people and situations. I have enough Great People in My Life, and I’m done with all that drama.
So, as you’ve probably figured out, I’m going through some issues with a couple of “so-called,” friends lately. I can deal with it, I always have, but what I’ve noticed, it just never gets any easier. The Hurt Remains The Same!
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